Taken in again

About 3 months ago, I was approached by a very clean cut young man hesitantly asking me on a date. Since I hadn't dated in a while, I was a bit taken aback, but open to the idea. Having been burned before, I am a big believer in taking things slow and seeing where they lead. So, after a couple of Sunday mornings in the park, we went to lunch. I thought everything went pretty well until he started talking about porn and his home movies. I am not a prude, but somehow, finding out that his idea of a good time was to film himself and "whoever" doing the deed didn't sit well with me, and I asked if we could leave "porn" and such off the table. He got huffy and stomped off.

Some other red flags? He made sure to mention that he had an 18 month old son, for whom he had sole custody. He was "divorced" his ex had just gotten out of a mental institution. Oh, yes, he was an admitted "sex addict" And the kicker? He wanted to know when we were going to get serious and have sex. He couched it in terms of marriage - "I can't think of marrying anyone I haven't had sex with" and such. When I told him I wasn't prepared to have a set date for sex, he asked if I minded if we weren't exclusive.

Now, a smarter woman than I should have caught on much earlier that this was not a good situation. But, as I said, I hadn't dated in a while and was a bit hungry, if you know what I mean. But caution kept me from making too many mistakes, thank God! He cancelled, what was supposed to be our next meeting the night before citing "babysitter issues". Of course, my caller ID told that he called from out of town, so that story was suspect. Then a few days later I received the "James Bond" email. In this email he talked of "all the positive changes he was going through and would tell me about them A.S.A.P." - Then dead silence.

I happened to be searching the web for his name and stumbled onto the fact that he is still married.

I felt like a tool for most of the past few months as his story kept changing and altering and I couldn't quite break away. Now, however, I hope he chokes on his deceit.

So, I am a bit sadder, but wiser - again. No matter what, it was good to fell attractive and desireable again. For that I do thank him. And I am glad my caution kept me from making a dreadful decision, and just possibly an STD!! What a tool!